Can you let it go?

It is when you are having a tough time letting go of someone or something, that is the part where you struggle within yourself to move on.  I want to but I don’t, I should but I can’t, I know it is best for me but why am I not able to do it … Why?

I ask myself these questions almost too many times in my life – not to my liking I will admit.  Perhaps it’s because I find myself in these situations time and time again.  Maybe I attract these situations to myself.  Maybe it’s just bad luck or maybe I keep making the same choices which leads to the same mistakes resulting in the same outcome.  So back to ‘square one’ – like I always say – back to the point where it all began … different story, different people yet same result.  I have not for the life of me figured out why I keep repeating the same thing.

The good thing is that I actually recognize my weakness and I am aware that I need to improve.  It seems that up until now with all the experience and knowledge I gained, I still have not managed to perfect my technique in the ability to let go.

The problem is that we look back and reminisce, we get drawn back to old stories and old feelings that no longer exist.  It’s like we get to live in an imaginary world that once upon a time meant something special to us.

It feels like I am stuck sometimes, even though I am well aware that it is not good for me and I am better off moving on and let the past just be.  Maybe it scares me not knowing where I am heading, so I try to stick to what I already know.  Maybe I feel like there is hope for things to go back the way they were, even though there is no indication that it will ever be.  Maybe I am just too attached that it actually breaks me to walk away and move ahead … like a piece of me is being torn and my instinct is to try to repair it any way I know how.  All these possibilities are there but which one is the right explanation.  What is it that holds me back from letting go??

What puzzles me is that I know I am capable of letting go since I have already let go of certain people and some things in my life that once upon a time were dear to my heart.  So why some times YES and sometimes NO??   This is definitely something I need to think about some more.  I have to study my behaviour in the past and maybe I can change my present outcomes and in turn my future. Who knows when I will learn to let go?? I know I will give it my best shot.

Those of you who can relate to my issue of letting go, I would love if you can shed some light on the topic, maybe even give some advice that might help.

Here are some quotes I found helpful:

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~Lao Tzu~

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed-door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” ~Alexander Graham Bell~

“There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.” ~Jessica Hatchigan~

“You cannot let go of anything if you cannot notice that you are holding it. Admit your ‘weaknesses’ and watch them morph into your greatest strengths.” ~Neale Donald Walsch~

“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” ~Oprah Winfrey~

“The farther behind I leave the past, the closer I am to forging my own character.” ~Isabelle Eberhardt~