How can we describe a moment? Do we recognize it? And how do we handle it? Better yet, do we even know what a ‘moment’ is … I mean can we really define it?
A moment in my eyes, is a very significant event that is different from the rest, it stands out or else it would be just like everything else that occurs in our lives, second by second, minute by minute. We don’t remember every minute of our lives, do we? No, we don’t because not every one of them affected our lives. A moment can also be attached to feelings. Yeah I said it… FEELINGS! Think about it, you will see I have a point. I will elaborate on that point later.
A moment can be either a good one or a bad one; just like everything else in this world has two sides. Sometimes, we do not even have the slightest clue as to what just occurred either because we are so blind, or we are so caught up with other priorities, or we simply just don’t care.
I wonder how many people actually stop and think about significant ‘MOMENTS’ in their lives. And if so, at what stage, why and then what? I seem to be coming up with more questions than answers, but I will try to give it my best shot to analyze this thought.
‘A MOMENT’…… whether positive or negative, it will impact a person more likely than not. So the moment… ‘the moment’ occurs, what do we do? Well, we have lots of choices; we can recognize it, or dismiss it, or pretend it didn’t happen. If we Recognize it; we can accept it, or deny it, believe it or not, understand it or not, cherish it or not, and the biggest choice yet is to either live the moment or not. The choice is ours at the end of the day.
When a moment occurs it’s either we anticipate it or it catches us off guard. Either way it affects us.
I think the key here is whether we recognize it or not. Because really, what can be possibly worse than missing out on a moment that will never come back? How terrible it must feel if life passes by with lots of moments that we fail to see, enjoy, cherish and live?? Wouldn’t our lives be so empty?
Every true moment counts. I mean by true as in ‘naturally’ occurring. Because there is so much beauty in a moment that surprises us. Those moments compile together and they create what is called ‘our memories’.
Our Memories are all full of tiny little moments… Good ones and Bad ones. Of course … We remember them all. Those moments of our lives are almost like pictures in our minds playing in a slide show forming a movie … A slide show of major events in our lives, even the silly ones that we never thought would mean anything; they count too.
I can share with you a couple of personal moments, where my life was never the same after. In my eyes they were significant enough, they meant something to me. I don’t expect the same thing to mean as much to you because we are all different.
The moment my name was called for me to accept my High School Diploma on stage. THAT was a moment, it replays in my mind as if it were yesterday. There were lots of mixed emotions at that time. I was happy, proud, scared of what’s to come, relieved I am done with this crap, excuse my language, and sad for the fact that things will never be the same again, I will not see all my friends everyday at school anymore, change is coming my way and I’m stepping into the unknown. All these things were involved in that one single moment.
Then there was the moment I held my best friends baby in my arms, so tiny and so fragile, so adorable, so innocent. I held him and I was in awe. Just a couple of hours ago he was inside this tummy, and now there is a human being in my arms, with toes and fingers and tiny little eyes that can barely open. The joy I experienced at the moment, I will never be able to put into words how I felt. That was definitely A MOMENT.
Another moment I will never forget was the moment I sat in my apartment looking at my first desktop computer that I managed to somehow buy with no money and to somehow transport it to my building and to somehow make it to my door. It was a mission alright. I won’t get into details but at the end, it was mission possible. A proud moment for me, because even with all the obstacles I had to face all alone. I made it happen. I did it.
Now it’s time for me to get even more mushy. I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t. Lol.
One of my most memorable and significant moments of my life to this day. Nothing has ever been able to top that moment. It was the moment I said “I love you” to the love of my life. And hearing it back made me feel I was in heaven. The world just stopped for that moment, nothing else existed as far as I was concerned. To be loved, to feel loved, to be shown love…. These are things we don’t get easy, we don’t get it enough, we don’t get it when we need it, it just happens and when that moment came for me, I lived it to the fullest, I cherish it to this day even though its been years back. And my feelings come back to me just like it was yesterday I was in that moment. A memory I will never forget or ever stop appreciating.
Too many moments for me to share, not enough time. I have had sad moments too that changed my life. I have lived all moments and I am proud to say I do no regret any of them. I made my choices. The moment came, I grabbed it. Whether I was right or wrong. Whether I hurt myself in the end or get the happily ever after. Well, at least I live my life knowing that I lived that moment even if it never comes back and even if I don’t have it today. I lived it and that’s all that matters.
I hope I made you think about some of your moments, that was my intention actually. It’s good for us to be reminded of what brought us here today, where we came from, what we went through. Just in case you are so wrapped up in your life today, take a moment alone, go back in memory lane, remember those moments. Smile if you want, shed a tear if you feel it, laugh out loud like you are crazy, shake your head at what you did back then, and say to yourself: ” wow, I lived that moment”.
Some quotes I would like to share with you:
“The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn
“You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.” ~ Henry Drummond
“We do not remember days, we remember moments. The richness of life lies in memories we have forgotten.” ~ Cesare Pavese
“Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away” ~ Hilary Cooper