One of those feelings that if you haven’t experienced it, you do not know how it really feels like.

It’s not easy to actually describe how it feels when your heart aches but just imagine this: ‘your heart is being pulled out, got thrown on the ground and broke into million pieces, shattered like small pieces of glass all over the place and you are in a state of mind where you don’t really realize what has happened, you can’t grasp the idea – most of all your brain isn’t really functioning as normal as it should.  Everything around you seems hazy and cloudy, you can’t hear what is being said, and all you can see in front of you is blur – you are pretty much in a state of non existence.

How many times do we get to experience such deep feelings? Well, from my experience, I can tell you, it is possible to experience this feeling more than once in our lifetime.  Although I will say that the intensity of the feeling may differ from one experience to the other.  Also the length of time it takes to get over the heartache, will vary from one person to the other. It depends on many factors and the combination every time will not be the same.  Some of which are:

– the vulnerability of the person

– the level of sensitivity

– the depth of the feelings

– the severity of the situation

– previous experiences

– the support of those around or lack thereof

– the willingness to overcome pain

– the timing of the situation

– the state of mind prior to the situation

These are all some possibilities that may have an effect on the heartache experience.  Whatever the issue is, to that person who is feeling heart-broken, it’s the end of the world as far they are concerned.  It feels like it is the worst thing that could ever happen, then again how do we know what is the worst that can happen to us.

Pain is present in our hearts, we felt it almost as strong as we feel physical pain – when you cry from heartache, you wanna yell and scream – but all that could come out of your mouth is the sound of ” Ahhhhhhhhh” The most powerful word to say when your heart is in so much pain … why I do not know … I just know it can have a light relief effect at that moment of agony.

Such intense feelings – heartache is probably one of the hardest things a person can go through.  We have all experienced some sort of heartache; some over people, some over things and some over events.

Would you be surprised if I told you that sometimes it is a good thing we experience heartache.  Let me tell you why I think so.  It is because when we do, it is a sign that we are alive deep down, it means we feel things, our emotions are in check so to speak. Let us imagine a world without heartache.  You know how sad that would be. Not because we desperately need things to devastate us – disasters happen whether we like it or not – it would mean however that we are dead inside, don’t care about anything or anyone, no true emotions …. just imagine!!

As painful a broken heart can be, as beneficial it can be.  It can be the wake up call we need to change our life to the better.  I believe that every time your heart is in pain, it is for your own good in the long run, we just don’t see it that way at the moment because our judgement is clouded by overpowering emotions.  Having said that, also too much heartache for one person in one lifetime can be too much to handle and can cause a complete breakdown.

So the question to ask is: ‘which one will this heartache be for me? is this the one to push me to better my life? or is this the one that will finish me of? Which do I want it to be? If I pick the later, it means I am giving up, and if it is the first one, then I am ready to fight some more.

That is the question I ask myself today after too many heartaches to count in my life so far!! Do you ask yourself too??

Quotes from the wise ones:

“Have you ever been hurt and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again.”  ~Rosa Parks~

“Count the garden by the flowers, never by the leaves that fall.  Count your life with smiles and not the tears that roll.”  ~Author Unknown~

“It is true that I have had heartache and tragedy in my life. These are things none of us avoids. Suffering is the price of being alive.” ~Judy Collins~