The feeling of being helpless, unable to do anything for the ones you love, is probably one of the most things I hate in this life. Even though I know that everything is in God’s hands at the end of the day, I still can’t help but feel like I must do something to help. That’s just me, I was born to do that.
A lot of you may have encountered these situations in which you didn’t know what to do, how to do it, and even wanting to do it but you just can’t. Circumstances can be bigger than what you can handle. Things outside of your control take place and you just can’t do a damn thing about it.
I know that sounds very negative and pessimistic, and I don’t like thinking this way, but I can’t help it. I feel very helpless. And that is not me. I always want to be in control. I believe I can make the impossible; possible. In other words I believe I can play a part in the way things turn out. I don’t like leaving things to chance and let it work itself out. But in my experience in life so far, I discovered that there are exceptions to this. There are limitations and there are things I cannot control. And that takes a lot out of me to admit this realization.
I am not a person who normally gives up without a fight. I try and I try until I can no longer try. But I find myself from time to time in a position where, accepting things for what they are; is the only way to go. And that’s when I turn to prayers. I turn to God. And I focus my energy in believing that now is the time for a miracle. My life indeed is full of miracles, and that I don’t take for granted. I thank God for always being by my side and listening to my prayers. However, my human side won’t let me be at ease, I stress, I worry, I fret. I keep thinking; maybe there is something I can do, I just haven’t discovered it yet. That’s my determination for wanting to be in control.
What do you do when your loved one is in a hospital bed and you can’t do anything to save them or cure them or take their pain away. What can you say or do when someone you love is going through a difficult time for loosing someone they love. How are you supposed to feel when someone you love needs you but distance separates you and circumstances stop you from being there by their side. These may be examples of very dire situations. But will you feel any different when you are in a situation where someone you care about just broke up their relationship and is heartbroken. Are there any words to say to make things better. Is there anything you can do to take the hurt away. What about when someone you care about just lost their job or failed an exam or got into a car accident or any crisis for that matter, whether it be financially, emotionally, physically … Yes there are things you may be able to do. Yes your presence in their life may be a help on its own. Yes you may find some consoling words or encouragement words to say or being there just to listen. Yes there may be solutions to certain problems that you may be able to assist with. Anything you can do, of course you will do. But what about no matter what you say or do, you can’t take their pain away, you can’t be there to hold them in your arms, you can’t give them a life back, you can’t heal them like God can. And that’s when it hits me; are we trying to compare ourselves to God sometimes? Do we really think that we are invincible and capable to make anything happen. We couldn’t be further from the truth.
Everything that happens has a reason, that we may or may not understand and accept. Everything that happens is actually meant to happen the exact way at the exact time. Everything bad that we experience is in fact to make us stronger and to teach us the lessons we need to learn in this life. So have we learned anything yet???
I hope so. I am trying my best to understand and when that’s not possible, I am trying to accept, and when that is very difficult to do, I try to have complete faith that I am not alone and all will work out in the end the way it was meant to. Nonetheless, I still get those moments when I feel helpless and I just wish I can make a difference in people’s lives, especially those I care about dearly.