If you have been dealing with abandonment, abuse, conditional love, trust, control, addiction, jealousy, anger … whatever else issues. And if you have been battling with these issues for years and never got to resolve them. You got some serious issues.
But who doesn’t have issues. Who doesn’t have one big issue that seems to follow them in everything they do, with everyone they meet and in every situation they face. It seems to be your theme in life. Your issue is stuck to you like glue. Even when you are finally ready to get rid of it once and for all. Even when you think you have faced it head on and dealt with it. Somehow, someway, it sneaks up on you and bam, it’s back again. Why can’t you just finish with this issue!!!
Perhaps because you haven’t learned the lessons you needed to learn from that issue. Perhaps, unknowingly, you are attracting it back to your life. Perhaps, you thought you dealt with it, but all you did was ignore it or suppress it. Your issues won’t just go away without you doing the work. Your issues won’t disappear with time. Your issues won’t change even if you leave the country and leave everyone you knew and start fresh. You carry your issues with you wherever you go because your issues are living within you. You have allowed it to rent space inside you. It’s not even paying you a dime. So why haven’t you evicted those issues by now. What are you waiting for?
The way you behave, the way you carry yourself, the way you treat others and yourself, the way you think, the way you talk, the energy you give to your thoughts, the choices you make, everything you do and don’t do, everything you say and don’t say, everything you feel and don’t feel; the whole package, in a nut shell, YOU. All that dictates how you handle your issues.
No one wants to be miserable. No one enjoys having their issues affecting their happiness. No one purposely chooses their issues. You find yourself wrapped up in it and you can’t remember how you got there; right!
Well, I am here to tell you that yes you are dealing with those issues because they were meant for you. And instead of fighting the idea, embrace it. Don’t hate the issues. Don’t love it either. Recognize it is here to teach you something. It is your challenge to rise above it and learn from it whatever is meant for you – and only you. Don’t blame your issues on others in your life. Don’t try to find excuses for it and don’t justify it. And for God’s sake, don’t bring innocent people in your issues and burden them. That’s not the solution.
So you got issues – ok. Don’t hide from it. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Just learn from it and move on. I am finally seeing this clearly. Better late than never I guess.