If you were to be truly honest with yourself right now – how many people in your life that you can say: “I depend on them and I know they will be there for me – thick and thin!”

For me – I used to think that it is important to have people in your life, whether family members or close friends, to depend on when necessary. This need or desire if you want to call it – led to creating expectations – which in turn resulted into big disappointments.

As life taught me various lessons, this one lesson I learned and I am so grateful that I did. I do not need to depend on anyone. I do not need to expect anything from anyone at any time. Sure, there are people that are near to my heart. Sure, there are those who have proven to me that I can count on them when I am in need. However, I will no longer ever confuse this with having an expectation from them.

I depend on myself first and foremost. I will ask for help when I need it. I may not get the help from those I ask. The universe will always send me the right person for the situation at hand. This I know with all my being.

How do you feel about this? Do you place expectations on certain people in your life? Have you been disappointed? What have you learned when you were let down? Are you feeling bitter? Betrayed? Do you think it was realistic – having those expectations? Better yet – why do you feel justified in having those expectations? What can you let go of now?