We tend to focus our thoughts on the things we don’t like. And we often continue to have poisonous and negative people in our lives. Yet we expect our lives to be smooth and uncomplicated? How in the world can you? The answer is obvious; is it not?

Our high expectations lead to our worst disappointments. When are we gonna learn to stop expecting?? When are we gonna be realistic? And when are we gonna learn to be human and treat others as such?? “When” Is the big question?????

You want to change your life, but something is always holding you back.  You analyze, calculate, plan and you repeat the process. Fear has taken over your life. You can’t make a decision. You are damned if you do – and damned if you don’t.  What should you do? Do you stay or do you go? Will you ever have guts to take action or will you sit asking those endless questions?

Have you ever been in a situation where someone seeks your advice with relationship issues, you genuinely try to help them and then comes a third party, gets involved with the ‘intention’ to help; but then knocks down half of what you said and in the end says: ‘you do what’s comfortable for you’. What can you say or do at this point except walk away from this whole thing.

So the new year comes and while it’s nice to receive all kinds of messages, pictures and videos with best wishes, hopes and dreams for the new year; don’t you find, it gets out of hand and is a bit OVER the top?! Does it get to you after a while?? Just wondering.

Have you realized that no one is going to read your mind and know what you want/need unless you actually ask/say something? 

Why do we get stuck into believing that there is only one way to get something done? Why can’t we totally surrender to God; to the divine, to the greater power we KNOW exists, no matter the label we choose. Why?

Wouldn’t it be better to get a divorce if you tried all you can to make it work? YOU actually think that it is better not to – for the sake of the children? Don’t you think it is the other way around? Wouldn’t it be healthier for both of YOU and your CHILDREN? Don’t you think it will help you become better parents if you separated? Why do you do this to yourself? What are you afraid of? Whose voice are you listening to? What does your inner voice tell you? Why do you care about other people’s opinions? Who matters here? Take the time and reflect.  Follow your heart!

Why do we allow ourselves to get disappointed over and over again by the same people who never lived up to our expectation since the beginning? Why we put pressure on them to be someone they are not? and why do we torture ourselves expecting different result every time? Is the problem truly with who they are? Or is it in how you are wishing they could be?

Ever wonder why the friends you attract in your life seem to have similar issues like you? You think it’s coincidence or luck? Think again.

Have you ever wondered what would happen to your life if you just didn’t comply to all the nonsense rules that society forces upon you? What if you just break free from it all? What would that feel like? Do you wonder?

Once I read there were six stages of grief:

shock

sorrow

struggle

surrender

sanctification

service

Have you ever wondered how nice it would be to trade lives with someone else? Then you think about it and realize. You wouldn’t trade your own life with anyone. You want it just the way it is. Even if it’s f**** up.