Many times we find ourselves in situations we wish we could change but stop ourselves from even entertaining the thought; in fear of what will happen. You think of your kids, of your partner, of your responsibilities and obligations. All of a sudden you feel weighed down. Your hands are tied. You can’t move. You can’t do this to yourself or to the ones you love. So you decide to accept the hand you have been dealt.

You tell yourself: “I have no choice .. I have to do this .. Perhaps the story would be different if I was not responsible of others .. Perhaps it would be easier if I was single.”

It’s always easy to advise someone and tell them to get over their fears and just take action. There has to be a difference in the way we make decisions in our lives when we are single versus when we are responsible for a family.

It’s hard enough to get over our fears and change our lives when it’s just about ourselves. All the consequences of your decisions will come back to you. For this reason, when it’s not just you, the people who depend on you will be affected by your every move and decision. Having said that, everyone may end up paying the price in some way or another. Whether an action is taken or not.

Sometimes when we sit and think about certain changes that need to be made, we tend to focus our attention on what will happen if we do. And we forget to give the same attention to what will happen if we do not.

All the debilitating fear that comes from making changes. We get caught up in those fears and don’t pay attention to the consequences of staying stuck in our comfort zone. In turn, justifying that making the change will be a bad decision for everyone. In the end, opting to sacrifice and continue doing the same thing that makes you unhappy and unfulfilled.

There are no easy solutions. And there is no one right answer. We all have choices to make. Where there is a will, there is a way. You just have to find it and do whatever is necessary.

Accepting a situation that doesn’t make you feel good, is not an answer. Some actions must be taken. Some adjustments need to be made.

Doing what feels right to you, should never harm you or the people who depend on you. When you are in a state of harmony with your life purpose and happy with where you are in life, it will reflect on you and those around you. It’s almost like Magic. You just have to believe that it will all work out. Even if you experience some discomfort at first. That’s a natural effect of change; always uncomfortable in the beginning.

In all fairness though, it is easier when you are single. Your responsibility is mainly to yourself. Risks you may take on along with their consequences will also mainly affect you. Without the heavy weight on your shoulders, it is easier to navigate. Yet, every step along the way will have its challenges, at times super overwhelming. Any change at any phase requires some getting used to. From small changes to bigger ones. With an unwavering desire to get to the next phase in your journey, you allow yourself to enjoy the ride and surrender to what is meant for you. That’s when magic happens.