Why We Leave People Behind – Quantum Leaping Is Real

It’s nothing new for me to be triggered by something I read, watch or hear. I’m used to it by now. This post I share by @sdcaw_spirituality, is one of those. Almost like a light bulb moment, when everything became clear for me. It all happened in seconds. Now it’s time for me to articulate that shift in simple terms, hopefully, being that guiding light in your journey.

At some stage in our lives, we may take an inventory of the people around us and they will all look different. Maybe not all, but you will find that many of the faces you once knew, are no longer there.

As we all know, our relationships are forever changing. Our friendships in particular are continuously recycling. There are those friends that stick with you throughout the whole cycle. From childhood or school days till the phase of taking your kids to after school activities and maybe even going through menopause with you (referring to women since that’s all I know, can’t say what happens to men other than becoming bald.)

On the other hand, you might have lost some of those connections as life sucked you in different directions. Perhaps moved to another city, country or another continent altogether. It’s not that you stopped or they stopped caring. It’s that life got you spinning in circles around yourself as you navigate through your responsibilities and obligations. Time passes, years pass and the gap between you gets wider and wider.

Your priorities change once you get married and have kids. Everyone gets told – and until you go through it, that’s when you understand it.

Having said that, it doesn’t mean you can’t maintain close friendships and dedicate time for those connections. It’s a choice. We all have the same 24 hours in our day. How you choose to spend your waking hours are all up to you. No one forces you to stay browsing on social media for hours instead of messaging a friend or picking up the phone to call them, even if it’s for a few minutes to say: “hi, how are you doing?” It takes one minute or less to send a message to say: “hey. I was thinking of you. All good with you? How is the fam?”

Naturally, friendships won’t survive for long if that’s all the communication you ever have. There needs to be deeper interactions and more time invested. There needs to be sharing about your lives. If your interaction is mainly about the weather, how the government is screwed up or how terrible the economy is, this relationship will not last.

Friendships are not about complaining all the time and listening to the other do the same then hang up and continue being miserable in your life. Meaningful Friendships, to last, must have an element of give and take, growth, substance, something of value from both sides. Real conversations. Deep. Vulnerable. This is where it becomes tricky and at some point you lose interest. The connection fades then eventually completely die.

For any type of relationship to flourish, it must have common interests or being on similar views on a few things in life. The more similarities, the stronger the bond. The less you find things in common, the less you feel comfortable around them, the less interest you have in spending time with them, the less you feel like talking, and then to no fault of either party, the relationship dies on its own.

That’s how marriages or long-term relationships die as well. That’s how your connection with family members die too. It’s all the same.

When you can’t find anything to connect with, you lose interest.

You don’t enjoy spending whatever little time you have to begin with – to socialize with someone you don’t have anything in common with. Even more, your needs are not being met. You feel lonely. Meanwhile you are surrounded by warm bodies. That’s all they are to you now. Just warm bodies. In some cases, they aren’t even warm. But cold as f&@$.

If you reached a point where you are growing, evolving, transforming into the next version of yourself that you are resonating with. If you decided to stop certain habits and patterns that no longer seem desirable for you. For example, drinking alcohol, going clubbing and all that comes with that lifestyle, eating fast food or unhealthy food choices, becoming vegan, not interested to watch news or silly TV shows that don’t support your growth, engaging in gossip or types of conversation you want no part of.

If you prefer to sit and read books around self-development, watch documentaries about quantum physics and lost worlds or listen to a podcast about the moon and stars. If you prefer a subscription to GAIA over NETFLIX or PRIME. If you choose to spend time in meditation and holistic practices. If you would rather spend your money on vitamins, supplements, crystals, incense, salt lamps and candles instead of shoes, decorations and top of the line technologies.

If you cherish conversations about the meaning of life and living with purpose instead of shallow talks that lead to nowhere and depressing thoughts that only lead down a rabbit hole of more negativity. If you thrive on sharing thoughts about enlightenment and quantum leaping. If you are someone who feels like you are coming from a different planet trying to fit in this intense 3D world. If you are one who feels you no longer belong to this world but trying to create a safe space where you can be your most authentic self. If that is you. Then you know what I mean when I say, you will feel like you lost everyone you once knew. And that is inevitable.

The key here is to know you can’t take them with you on your journey because each one has their own journey and lessons to learn. A life of their own to live. They have to figure things out for themselves. While it would be great to keep those relationships, friendships, family members and romantic partner on your journey. Unfortunately, it was never meant to be as you wish. And that’s a hard pill to swallow. Yet, it is the truth of transformation.

You will leave some people behind.

You may be able to maintain some of your old relationships on some superficial level if you can handle it. To your amazement, a few may match your vibration and perhaps are on a parallel path. At a later phase, they may become stagnant or revert back to their familiar world and you may have to move along.

Then something magical happens.

Souls enter your world exactly when you are ready for them. Old souls, familiar souls or souls fulfilling their contract as once agreed. They show up matching your vibration. They meet you where you are. You don’t have to try hard to make them understand you. They get you without you saying a word. They speak your language. The language you have been struggling to communicate with supposedly the closest people in your life.

And that’s why those people will fade out when the new, miraculously, show up. Meeting your needs, conversing, practicing and knowing exactly where you are.

Sometimes, certain souls show up because it’s time to be a student again. You are ready for the next phase. How long they stay – is irrelevant – as it has nothing to do with time. Only then it becomes clear – the need to release the ones who aren’t ready to jump into the new timeline with you. And the detachment mindset required to move freely with no guilt or conditioned beliefs.

Undeniably, when you are in your humanness, it is quite a task and emotionally heavy to let go of relationships and people. Yet, when we learn to detach and let go, we allow magic to work in our lives. The more we surrender to life, the more we experience its magic.

It’s time you stop holding yourself back.

It’s time to let go of whatever doesn’t serve your growth.

Let miracles take place as they are always happening.

Pay attention to the signs.

Watch serendipity happening right before your eyes.

Focus on the beauty of this magical world.

This is not a fantasy.

This is an outcome of your surrender and leaping into your true existence.

Allow yourself to be aligned.

Even if it means leaving people behind.