I was thinking – why do we tend to wish to erase and forget the year that passed? Why do we say things like: thank god the year is over? Even worse, why do we tend to only remember the tough times and totally dismissing the good ones as if they never happened? Wait, are we doing this with everything? And are we purposely claiming misery? Continue reading
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She Reclaimed Her Life – You Can Too
She reclaimed her life – you can too
A story about a woman in her mid-sixties who endured a little over 20 years with a Narcissistic neurodivergent borderline ADHD
Join me in congratulating her for her strength, perseverance, resilience, wisdom, patience, and determination to slip from this toxic relationship, renew her environment, refresh her energy, reclaim her life and start over.
She starts over, not from a place of weakness. Not from a victim state. Rather, an empowered state.
If you knew half of what she had to deal with all these years. Especially Continue reading
Closet Covert Narcissist: Ready or Not-here I come
Ever been so dumbfounded when you realize you have been interacting with someone who has two faces. And no I’m not referring to Geminis. That’s a whole other pain on its own. No offence to any Geminis out there. Forgive my generalization. But Damn if you actually end up interacting with a Narcissistic Gemini with a borderline personality disorder. Uffff!! God help you. You better Run fast.
Jokes aside, imagine you thought you knew someone for the longest time. You interacted on a close level. You lived through Continue reading
When Healing Feels Lonely
I feel called to discuss this considering I have been on a healing journey and wish to share my findings. Maybe you are feeling the same! There’s a part of the healing journey no one really talks about … ‘the loneliness.’ Even when you’re surrounded by people or deeply connected to the world around you, the path of inner-healing and spiritual growth often feels deeply personal and at times, isolating. Continue reading
I believe in what I teach
I am here surrounded by people poking through my sovereignty and choice of being who I am. By circumstances; challenging, unbearable yet sweetly educational. By a state of being; unpleasant, at times shaky yet absolutely transformational. I stand here with so much inner strength and a zest for living a joyful and meaningful life. I am choosing to be open, vulnerable and transparent. I am choosing to share the biggest falls, the darkest secrets, the most private moments of my life. While I believe that in doing so, I am aligned with my purpose, living my dharma, fulfilling what my soul came here to do.
I am not ashamed sharing parts of my life or my whole life story for that matter. I am not afraid of Continue reading
The Elephant in Your Mind
Sometimes I refer to my mind as a hard drive that contains several folders labelled and organized, categorized and sorted by date created or date modified. Every once in a while, I go through a purge where I delete duplicates or unwanted files. At times renaming some files, editing them or simply storing them in a temporary folder for later use. I forget however to empty the trash bin regularly. This causes the hard drive to become slower and the deleted items are still taking space from the overall capacity.
When I remember to empty the trash permanently, a sense of relief occurs with a little worry: “I wonder if I deleted something I needed or didn’t back up?! I wonder if I lost a file I may never get back?!” The cycle continues. Eventually, I forget about the deleted files and the trash bin ends up full again with more duplicates and unwanted files.
Isn’t it a very close description of how we treat our minds? The information we gather along our journey of life. The knowledge we Continue reading
The Predictable in the Unpredictable
You know how it feels knowing that something crazy is about to happen. Yet you have no idea what it is. Well, that’s the predictable in the unpredictable. What you are about to experience is so unknown, unexpected, and unimagined that it is anticipated, aka predictable. Does that even make sense?
Maybe not. But here is the thing. Continue reading
Understanding the Progression of a Narcissistic Relationship
Narcissistic relationships can be incredibly confusing, especially when you are initially swept off your feet by someone who seems perfect. Individuals with narcissistic traits, whether they fully meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or simply exhibit narcissistic tendencies, can create a facade that is deeply compelling. However, as time goes on, the mask they wear begins to slip, revealing behaviours and personality traits that are often manipulative, controlling, and emotionally abusive.
This article aims to shed light on how these toxic relationships typically unfold, from the charm that draws someone into the eventual unravelling of the facade. It is important to note that this progression is not universal and can vary depending on the individuals involved. However, many victims of narcissistic relationships report strikingly similar experiences that follow a predictable pattern. It is also critical to understand that being Continue reading
Does the pain ever go away after losing a loved one?
The answer is no. The pain doesn’t really go away. It just takes different forms. You feel it differently. It hits you differently. You process it differently. The intensity will be less and less as time goes by. One thing I can tell you, it never goes away.
You don’t know what healing from grief looks like until you go through it. If you don’t experience a loss from an early age, you are blessed. But when you start losing people as they age, it never stops.
Whether it’s a distant family member or a close one. Whether it’s a tragic accident or old age. Whether it’s an illness or a sudden loss of life. It doesn’t matter the reason. You will go through grief. Continue reading
The Truth about The New Year
The new year comes with its own unique challenges.
Are we there yet?
The first challenge is this phenomenon where most people are so obsessed with bringing in the new year wishing and praying it will be better than the shitty one they just had. Meanwhile, that’s the same thing they felt and said every new year. Continue reading
EVERY WOMAN’S SCRIPTURE
To every woman out there, take some time to digest this. It may be what you needed to hear. And it may be the answer to your prayers.
Did you know that the behaviour you tolerate at the start of a new relationship SETS THE TONE for how you are treated after the honeymoon is over? Continue reading
It is not about the SNAKE but the POISON
“Imagine being bitten by a snake and instead of focusing on healing and recovering from the poison, you are consumed with finding the snake to explain why it hurt you and to prove that you didn’t deserve it. This isn’t about the snake 🐍” Posted by Rob Butler – source unknown
Inspired by this quote I would like to share some thoughts.
I get it. I know what it feels like when you have been treated like crap, to put it mildly. It’s unfathomable, unexplainable, inexcusable, and unforgivable. The lengths these people had gone to destroy you is something you cannot Continue reading
Married to a Narcissist? Want to know what will happen to you?
Are you discovering that you married a narcissist? May God save you!!
I suggest you read through to the end to find out why staying in a marriage with a Narcissist is not just a bad idea, but a danger to your life. This article is dedicated to all the women who are stuck in a Narcissistic Marriage. Continue reading
Do we Self-Sabotage mindlessly?
A question that came to my mind one evening right after dinner. No idea where it came from. I thought let me explore my thoughts. So here I am, asking this question: do we self-sabotage without realizing?
Firstly, to answer this question, Continue reading
The Narcissist Boss Trap
At some point in your life, you experienced a Narcissistic Boss of some sort. If you are one of the lucky ones who didn’t have the pleasure of meeting one, consider yourself truly blessed. Generally, I can presume that you encountered one in some form or another. Continue reading
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