Tag Archives: control

May 7 2025

The Elephant in Your Mind

Sometimes I refer to my mind as a hard drive that contains several folders labelled and organized, categorized and sorted by date created or date modified. Every once in a while, I go through a purge where I delete duplicates or unwanted files. At times renaming some files, editing them or simply storing them in a temporary folder for later use. I forget however to empty the trash bin regularly. This causes the hard drive to become slower and the deleted items are still taking space from the overall capacity.

When I remember to empty the trash permanently, a sense of relief occurs with a little worry: “I wonder if I deleted something I needed or didn’t back up?! I wonder if I lost a file I may never get back?!” The cycle continues. Eventually, I forget about the deleted files and the trash bin ends up full again with more duplicates and unwanted files.

Isn’t it a very close description of how we treat our minds? The information we gather along our journey of life. The knowledge we Continue reading →

Mar 7 2025

Understanding the Progression of a Narcissistic Relationship

Narcissistic relationships can be incredibly confusing, especially when you are initially swept off your feet by someone who seems perfect. Individuals with narcissistic traits, whether they fully meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or simply exhibit narcissistic tendencies, can create a facade that is deeply compelling. However, as time goes on, the mask they wear begins to slip, revealing behaviours and personality traits that are often manipulative, controlling, and emotionally abusive.

This article aims to shed light on how these toxic relationships typically unfold, from the charm that draws someone into the eventual unravelling of the facade. It is important to note that this progression is not universal and can vary depending on the individuals involved. However, many victims of narcissistic relationships report strikingly similar experiences that follow a predictable pattern. It is also critical to understand that being Continue reading →

Jul 7 2023

The Silent Treatment

Raise your hand in the air if you are guilty of using this method with people in your life. Whether in the past or in the present. 🙋‍♀️ Fine I will be the first one to raise my hand. Here I am. Guilty. I have used it and not proud of it. The question is why do we resort to silence and what is our intention Continue reading →

Aug 7 2019

The Disease

We see it in the news, we read about it in newspapers or in social media feeds, we hear of it from people we know or don’t know; but we never think it could happen to us. We sympathize with those who get affected. We recognize that it is now more common than ever before. We know it’s possible that anyone can get diagnosed with any disease at any time in their life. But we still don’t grasp the idea Continue reading →

Feb 22 2018

AFRAID

Sometimes what you need is not what you want. And what you want is not what you need. To solve this puzzle is to search within yourself to understand who you truly are. Same statement, same words, different meaning. What you understand out of this statement may very well be a whole different thing from what another understands. Why is that? Continue reading →

Oct 28 2015

What’s your addiction?

Believe it or not, most of us have some sort of addiction. Some are more obvious than others. And some may seem so normal that we don’t pay attention to it. We do it without realizing it is an addiction. We are so programmed to see what we want to see and the rest, we have a blind eye to. Some addictions are more harmful than others. Some may destroy us as a matter of fact. In any case, you cannot find many positives in any kind of addiction. Even if you are not hurting someone else with your Addiction because most likely the one being most affected is YOU. Continue reading →

Sep 13 2014

What’s the rush??

We live day by day in constant hurry. We are usually late to do something or go somewhere. We are usually stuck in traffic whether you are driving or being a passenger. Everyone is on the road. Everyone needs to be somewhere – NOW!!  We are constantly rushing, we are constantly doing things quickly. Sometimes we do not even enjoy Continue reading →

Nov 15 2013

Helpless

The feeling of being helpless, unable to do anything for the ones you love, is probably one of the most things I hate in this life. Even though I know that everything is in God’s hands at the end of the day, I still can’t help but feel like I must do something to help. That’s just me, I was born to do that. Continue reading →

Aug 1 2012

Disappointments

How many times in our lives have we felt disappointed? Why do we experience this feeling often? Is there anything we can do to lower our disappointments?

These are some of the questions I ask myself from time to time.  Usually it is when I get disappointed, Continue reading →