Ever found yourself in the middle of a broken relationship where you are the observer of both parties? You find yourself struggling to stay objective. You can’t take sides. You want to help and it can be really challenging at times. It’s not about you helping them save their relationship. It’s not about what Continue reading
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Can you forget a LOVE by another LOVE?
Ever had to deny your feelings because you thought you were doing the right thing? Ever had to pretend to be just friends with someone you have been in love with for as long as you can remember? Ever had to find a way to distract yourself from this forbidden or doomed love, that you got yourself in a bigger mess with their replacement? Continue reading
Have you learned the lesson?
Since we were born, we were conditioned to believe that not everything we want we will get. Just because you want it now, doesn’t mean it will happen now. Just because you planned it this way, it will end up working out that way. We learned through life that we must wait. We learned to be patient. We learned that some things are out of our control. We learned that we must live in acceptance and gratitude. With time and experience, we learn all these lessons and much more. Some of us though, may never learn. Continue reading
If I was SINGLE .. I would ..
Many times we find ourselves in situations we wish we could change but stop ourselves from even entertaining the thought; in fear of what will happen. You think of your kids, of your partner, of your responsibilities and obligations. All of a sudden you feel weighed down. Your hands are tied. You can’t move. You can’t do this to yourself or to the ones you love. So you decide to Continue reading
Excuses or Reasons?
I couldn’t do this because… I didn’t call you because… I am late because… I didn’t tell you because… It wasn’t me who did… etc.
The gazillion excuses we come up with to justify a wrongdoing or a failure in ourselves. It’s easier for us to find an excuse, a strong one; that would get us off the hook, or we try anyway. The excuses we convince others with, in turn, translate to Continue reading
Did you learn anything?
With the ending of a year, there comes moments where we self-reflect and recall some events that left a mark on our lives. Perhaps, we changed or grew. Now whether we grew bitter or grew grateful, that’s a choice we make as we allow Continue reading
Time to Release
It’s that time of the year again when we experience mixed emotions.
Some of us are happy. Some not so much. Some want to enjoy every moment of the festivities. Some wish it would just end before it begins. Some are feeling grateful and joyful. Some are lonely and resentful.
To each their own. We all have a choice to make. And whichever path you choose then you will live the consequence of that choice. Continue reading
Freeze your inner dialogue
Do you ever hear these voices inside your head? One is telling you to do this and the other is telling you to do that. And then comes along a third one being the observer of those two voices and questions: what the hell is wrong with you? You get frustrated with all these voices and decide to get the opinion of another external voice that may help you put your noisy voices at rest.
So that’s your inner dialogue. These voices are the conflictions of your mind. Some may call it “our monkey mind”. It’s exactly what it sounds. It’s jumping Continue reading
What’s in a Memory?
“The best thing about memories is making them” – Unknown Author
At any given moment, you can pause and reflect, there you are taking yourself back in time, remembering what once was. What are memories, other than moments previously lived. All that is left of them are flashbacks in your mind’s eye or photos and videos, that are physical evidence of a framed precise moment. Some of those memories are the reason why we are still pushing through this life. Some are holding us back from living. Everything has its opposite polls. Memories are no different. The question here, are memories affecting the quality of your current life? Continue reading
We live in a fake world
Don’t you feel we are living in a fake world. More and more we are surrounded by everything that seems fake, unreal, too modified, too flawless, too good to be true, and the list goes on. I am not exaggerating. I promise you that. Look around you.
Take a moment to stop and notice Continue reading
What is my speaker SUPERPOWER?
A quiz I came across on a social media platform that I choose not to participate in yet, it caught my attention and inspired me to write about it.
There were four options available: Nurturer, Motivator, Truth-Teller, and Visionary. It hit me while I was reading this sponsored ad, that I humbly possess all four of those characteristics and have applied them unknowingly throughout my conversations, debates, and writings. Continue reading
The Silent Treatment
Raise your hand in the air if you are guilty of using this method with people in your life. Whether in the past or in the present. 🙋♀️ Fine I will be the first one to raise my hand. Here I am. Guilty. I have used it and not proud of it. The question is why do we resort to silence and what is our intention Continue reading
Second Chances Revealed
Do you believe in second chances? Or is there a limit on how many chances we get to do something over? Better yet, how many chances are you comfortable giving to the same person who hurt you? Do you apply the same theory of ‘second chance’ towards others as you would for yourself? Have you been given a second chance at something then lost it again? Have you given a second and third chance for someone to do better but ended up letting you down? When do you say: “enough is enough – no more chances?” Continue reading
Earning A Child’s Trust
Never underestimate the need to earn the trust of a child. A mother earns her baby’s trust almost automatically as there is an unspoken, undeniable bond between the two. It all started while baby was in the womb and after birth it gets stronger; as mommy cares for her baby in every way. Anyone else who becomes a caregiver for a child earns trust in a few moments from the initial interaction, followed by a series of actions. Continue reading
Learning to ask for help
I am an individual who had a hard time asking for help and receiving in general. It’s been a lifelong challenge and mission to improve. I struggled for most of my adult life asking anyone for help unless it was a dire need. I was adamant on being self-sufficient and totally independent even if I had to suffer. I couldn’t see past my need to take care of myself and to never need anyone or depend on anyone. There are reasons for this Continue reading
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