The Elephant in Your Mind

Sometimes I refer to my mind as a hard drive that contains several folders labelled and organized, categorized and sorted by date created or date modified. Every once in a while, I go through a purge where I delete duplicates or unwanted files. At times renaming some files, editing them or simply storing them in a temporary folder for later use. I forget however to empty the trash bin regularly. This causes the hard drive to become slower and the deleted items are still taking space from the overall capacity.

When I remember to empty the trash permanently, a sense of relief occurs with a little worry: “I wonder if I deleted something I needed or didn’t back up?! I wonder if I lost a file I may never get back?!” The cycle continues. Eventually, I forget about the deleted files and the trash bin ends up full again with more duplicates and unwanted files.

Isn’t it a very close description of how we treat our minds? The information we gather along our journey of life. The knowledge we Continue reading

Do we Self-Sabotage mindlessly?

 

A question that came to my mind one evening right after dinner. No idea where it came from. I thought let me explore my thoughts. So here I am, asking this question: do we self-sabotage without realizing?

Firstly, to answer this question, Continue reading

The Narcissist Boss Trap

At some point in your life, you experienced a Narcissistic Boss of some sort. If you are one of the lucky ones who didn’t have the pleasure of meeting one, consider yourself truly blessed. Generally, I can presume that you encountered one in some form or another. Continue reading

If I was SINGLE .. I would ..

Many times we find ourselves in situations we wish we could change but stop ourselves from even entertaining the thought; in fear of what will happen. You think of your kids, of your partner, of your responsibilities and obligations. All of a sudden you feel weighed down. Your hands are tied. You can’t move. You can’t do this to yourself or to the ones you love. So you decide to Continue reading

Freeze your inner dialogue

Do you ever hear these voices inside your head? One is telling you to do this and the other is telling you to do that. And then comes along a third one being the observer of those two voices and questions: what the hell is wrong with you? You get frustrated with all these voices and decide to get the opinion of another external voice that may help you put your noisy voices at rest.

So that’s your inner dialogue. These voices are the conflictions of your mind. Some may call it “our monkey mind”. It’s exactly what it sounds. It’s jumping Continue reading

I saved my spirit

A while go, I was inspired to write. Yet for my own safety, I couldn’t release those thoughts. I couldn’t speak my truth. I had to be careful with every move I make. It was just a temporary situation I had to endure until I could be free to write and post what I truly felt. The time is now right and I can share my thoughts of this one sunny afternoon in a place that brought me back to life. Continue reading

Stand Up For What You Believe

 

If I may humbly give this advice to everyone out there. I know it is hard sometimes because our circumstances may seem stronger and out-powered. We always have a choice in which road we take. Sometimes, we think it’s easier to keep quiet, and follow even if it is against what we believe or desire. We may think, it’s okay to make an exception or that it is for the betterment of others. We sacrifice Continue reading

My life; My way

Do you want to know what it’s like living in a world where you are this person but to the rest of the world you are another. Have you ever felt that you are living a double life. Have you ever had to hide what you feel inside. Have you ever had to pretend to be someone you are not. Did you ever have to make decisions in your life where you would live in pain whichever way you choose. Welcome to my life.  Continue reading

The Calm before the Storm

Do you ever notice that in your life, you have those times where everything seems to be going somewhat normal. Life is just going by, day by day, it’s the same old story. People ask you how is it going, your answer is the same. It’s good, all is good. And then, out of no where, the calmness ends suddenly and the storm hits. And you understand the term, when it rains, it pours.  Continue reading

Sweep Under The Rug

A term used to describe the way we handle issues sometimes by actually not dealing with it and pretending it’s not there or that it will get fixed on its own. Too much too handle; sweep it under the rug. Too afraid to face the reality; sweep it under the rug. Too terrified of the outcome; sweep it under the rug. Too difficult, too embarrassing, too whatever you are thinking of, the only thing you are doing is just pretending the problem does not exist and sweep sweep sweep. One day, the rug will be so high and unbalanced from all the dust you stowed under. The only thing you are really doing Continue reading