The Elephant in Your Mind

Sometimes I refer to my mind as a hard drive that contains several folders labelled and organized, categorized and sorted by date created or date modified. Every once in a while, I go through a purge where I delete duplicates or unwanted files. At times renaming some files, editing them or simply storing them in a temporary folder for later use. I forget however to empty the trash bin regularly. This causes the hard drive to become slower and the deleted items are still taking space from the overall capacity.

When I remember to empty the trash permanently, a sense of relief occurs with a little worry: “I wonder if I deleted something I needed or didn’t back up?! I wonder if I lost a file I may never get back?!” The cycle continues. Eventually, I forget about the deleted files and the trash bin ends up full again with more duplicates and unwanted files.

Isn’t it a very close description of how we treat our minds? The information we gather along our journey of life. The knowledge we Continue reading

Does the pain ever go away after losing a loved one?

The answer is no. The pain doesn’t really go away. It just takes different forms. You feel it differently. It hits you differently. You process it differently. The intensity will be less and less as time goes by. One thing I can tell you, it never goes away. 

You don’t know what healing from grief looks like until you go through it. If you don’t experience a loss from an early age, you are blessed. But when you start losing people as they age, it never stops. 

Whether it’s a distant family member or a close one. Whether it’s a tragic accident or old age. Whether it’s an illness or a sudden loss of life. It doesn’t matter the reason. You will go through grief.  Continue reading

Earning A Child’s Trust

Never underestimate the need to earn the trust of a child. A mother earns her baby’s trust almost automatically as there is an unspoken, undeniable bond between the two. It all started while baby was in the womb and after birth it gets stronger; as mommy cares for her baby in every way. Anyone else who becomes a caregiver for a child earns trust in a few moments from the initial interaction, followed by a series of actions. Continue reading

Learning to ask for help

I am an individual who had a hard time asking for help and receiving in general. It’s been a lifelong challenge and mission to improve. I struggled for most of my adult life asking anyone for help unless it was a dire need. I was adamant on being self-sufficient and totally independent even if I had to suffer. I couldn’t see past my need to take care of myself and to never need anyone or depend on anyone. There are reasons for this Continue reading

You are Happiest when …

Once more I will touch on a subject I have expressed my thoughts on before. Today’s question is you are happiest when??  It’s more like fill in the blanks rather than a question. The start of the statement indicates you already know that you experienced happiness. You just need to specify the moments in which you feel it. This means we admit to ourselves that happiness is not constant. Happiness comes Continue reading

Conversation with My Heart

How many times will I keep going through this? How much more can my heart take? Why do I always end up in the same spot every time? Do I continuously make wrong choices and am I that bad in my judgements? It’s at times like these when I think I know nothing. I think I do, but obviously I don’t. Continue reading

The “FORGIVENESS” Lesson

“Don’t forgive because it’s the right thing to do, forgive because it’s what you want to do”. Aly Johnson

“I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.” Henry ward Beecher

“He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven.” Thomas fuller

“Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespassed against us”. The Lord’s Prayer

How often do we repeat quotes like these in our daily lives and actually understand the depth of forgiveness? Do we really know how to forgive? And why is it that we do not practice this act more often? Continue reading